Why I'm NOT Saying "Jack" To Jack About Barbara

I had an epiphany of sorts last night.  After talking about this situation to all of my friends, I made a welcomed decision.

I welcome the peace that comes with making this decision.  I am not going to bring up the Barbara subject with Jack.

'Tis not my subject to bring up.  This is Jack's baby.  This is Jack's situation.

Let's look at it from his point of view.  Jack believes that I know nothing of Barbara.  He has not mentioned anything about Barbara on his Facebook page.  As a matter of fact, Jack, you haven't updated your page since 2/20...How obvious that you only miss updating your page when you have female "company" visiting.

Jack makes it too easy to know what's going on.  Yet, I believe he believes that I still know nothing of Barbara...and I am saying nothing.

Today is 3/1/11.  Next month, I will be with Jack in Las Vegas for 5 days.  I have made the decision that I will not say anything to Jack.  I will give Jack the opportunity to open the lines of communication about Barbara all by himself...or not.  What if Jack goes thru all of March and never mentions her?  I mean, that is possible and he may not mention Barbara. 

Yes, it's a test, of sorts.  Does Jack feel as if he has to keep Barbara a secret?  Probably, and why?  Jack's conscious or maybe he doesn't give a shit if I know or not.  Maybe he feels that way now, but will he feel that way when I decide to drop the Barbara bomb in April?  Certainly, I can hold my tongue about Barbara until I am face-to-face with Jack.  Or maybe even kissing Jack in Las Vegas.  I'll pull away from his kiss to ask why Barbara didn't come with him.  Insert smiley here.

 I don't think Jack knows that I am in for the long haul.  I believe Jack views me through his female filter; and that would be viewing me like women from his past.  I'm not going to fly off the handle about Barbara, what pisses me off is the fact that he has kept Barbara a secret from me.

 Jack and I have been clear on the fact that since we don't live close to one another that dating others is not off limits.  Dating others is OK, as long as we tell one another about the other person.  Hell, I have a lunch date with Anthony tomorrow.  Will I tell Jack?  Yes, but since Jack is still hanging out with Barbara, I probably won't tell Jack until after my date with Anthony.  I certainly won't go through such extremes to hide Anthony from Jack.